A lot of people have expressed negative reactions to the season finale of How I Met Your Mother that aired yesterday. Honestly, I was pretty ticked off with the people who said that it was a waste of nine years of their lives… excuse you? Do you honestly believe that if you found out nine years ago that Ted finally found his soulmate but unfortunately she succumbed to an unknown sickness, that Robin and Barney got divorced after three years of being unhappily married to one another (at least they tried right?), that Barney had a daughter that changed his life forever, that Lily and Marshall’s lives could never be more perfect, and that Ted and Robin ended up together, would you still not have watched those nine years of craziness, adventure, heartache, and laughter?
Don’t get me wrong, I loved the mother. Yes, as a fangirl myself, I would understand why people got upset that they killed her off and that the writers made Ted and Robin get back together. It is because they built her character up so much, as well as her relationship with Ted. The two had so many similarities and amazing moments as a couple. They also had so many moments before they met wherein they almost crossed paths, which makes us really believe that they were meant to be together. But they didn’t meet just yet, not until after the love of Ted’s life got married. I believe it’s because he couldn’t meet his soulmate yet when he was still in love with Robin.
That’s how destiny works. There’s always a place and time for everything and for Ted, he needed to let go of Robin so that he could allow himself to truly fall in love with another girl again. Unfortunately, you don’t always live happily ever after with your soulmate. It’s true that one day, you’ll cross paths with them but they don’t always stay in our lives. The truth about soulmates is that they could be anyone; a friend, a neighbor, an enemy, or a partner, and that it doesn’t always have to last forever. I believe this finale conflicted many people because it was a battle between Ted’s soulmate versus the love of his life. Remember in the episode of “How I Met Your Dad” wherein Cindy asked the mother ‘what comes after the one?’ The next one. Why can’t the same go for Ted? And coincidentally, Ted’s the one also passed away, just like the mother’s.
Also, don’t tell me you didn’t see that coming. There’s Lily and Marshall’s bet in 7×17 wherein Lily told Marshall to pay up but he said ‘not yet’. There are the drawings of the kids going to the zoo and the beach with their Aunt Robin (activities you would oftentimes go with your parents right?) giving me the notion that the mother was not present anymore. And there’s the obvious – Ted and the search for Robin’s locket. People said that they destroyed Ted’s character that after he let Robin go, he went back to her. That’s not him being weak. That’s him getting back out there (six years according to the children) and fighting for another chance at happiness – another chance to fall in love again. The mother was a great girl and from what she seemed, I wouldn’t think she’d be selfish not to allow Ted to be happy again. They made the most out of every moment they spent together and nothing can take that away from them.
Again, don’t get me wrong. I was also confused how Robin and Barney just woke up one day and realized they weren’t happy anymore despite showing each other how much they loved each other during their wedding weekend. It’s really hard for a leopard to change it’s spots. Barney thought he was done with the life of one-night-stands after he married Robin, but he still went back to it after they got divorced. Why weren’t people reacting about that too, on how he also went back to his old ways? Remember that all it takes is for just one person to come into our lives that could change us completely. For Barney, that was his daughter. For Ted, it has always been Robin. She has given him more heartbreaks and happiness than all the girls he dated combined, but love is so unexpected and irrational. From the beginning, it has always been Robin. Even when he was with the mother, he still loved Robin, just not in that way anymore. But feelings fleet away and feelings come back, and that’s something we can’t hold against anyone.
So everybody who got mad about the finale, calm down. If you didn’t like that ending, I hope you’ll be contented with this one. No one can always please everyone but damn, think about the series as a whole and not just the pieces in the end. I love this series and I will never forget everything it has taught me. Need more persuasion? Well, Thought Catalog has some points to make as well.